The Lucky Ones

July 22nd, 2011

LetterI received a lovely letter from my grandmother yesterday. In her letter, she wrote, "We see how you interact with your son - such wonderful parents. And that little child you're looking for [in reference to adoption] is going to be one lucky baby." I cherished my grandmother's words. After all, she's a tough woman and a wonderful mother, having birthed seven children. Even in her mature years, she is a painter, she still braves the cold winters of Small Town, Iowa, and her ideals and fashion choices are much more modern than her age would have you expect. But after thinking about her generous words, I couldn't help but think, "No, I am the lucky one." I completely understand the point she was trying to… [more]

What Is Best For The Children?

December 10th, 2010


Through the years, starting when I was a child, I have raised money for various worldwide organizations. I have always had a slight Mother Teresa complex and I’ve wanted to save the world a few times over. As I’ve gained more wisdom, I’ve finally concluded the best way for me to save the world is to raise my daughters to be the best world citizens they can be. I am an adopter. My daughters are adopted, and I have six cats…all adopted. My dog stumbled on our doorstep one day, and after looking into his big brown eyes, I adopted him and gave him a loving home on the spot… [more]

Celebration Tokens: In-Process Adoption Keepsakes

August 20th, 2009

While I was pregnant with Bear, each month presented me with a growing reminder of my child. Granted, I can’t claim I gave birth to a seventy-five pound baby (yes, I gained a whopping seventy-five pounds—and let me tell you, they were delicious!), but I had that physical reminder of his presence with me always; in addition to my constantly and consistently expanding belly, I also savored the numerous but still always amazing flutters, kicks, jabs and so forth. While we were in the process of adopting Beauty, I obviously didn’t have the constant physical reminders. The love was exactly the same, but I have to admit this much is true: I missed those everyday suggestions that I was one step closer to meeting my… [more]

Here We Go Again – Madonna’s Adoption

April 1st, 2009

When When I learned of Madonna's bid for another adoption, I couldn't help but sigh. I don't like feeling that way when hearing about an adoption, but I don't think celebrity adoption is always the best advertisement. There are a lot of ideas and statements being thrown about that are not educating or empowering for anyone. Right now many GOOD people and organizations that care about children are fighting with eachother and when this happens the kids are the ones that lose. Spokesman, Dominic Nutt, for Save the Children UK has said "many international adoptions are unnecessary -- and some even feed into a criminal "adoption industry." and that," he was not suggesting that Madonna was doing anything wrong -- but… [more]

Not Just a Number

March 5th, 2009

We live in a world of not-just-a-number. There is a clock in every room, a phone in our pocket, the mph in our cars. We know our families phone not-just-a-number, birthdays and kids weights and heights. There is no doubt in my mind that if we took all the not-just-a-number away we would fall apart. The not-just-a-number also desensitize us in some ways. Unfortunately when we hear about the number of orphans in the world, the number hits us as large, but we are used to large not-just-a-number. I don't think it affects us the way it should. Watching the news and hearing all the large money amounts being mentioned is enough to make me want to tune not-just-a-number out… [more]

Inspirational Adoptee from Peru

August 22nd, 2007

A story of how a birth country visit can turn into something life altering for international adoptees and for the children left behind is always inspiring, and this one is no exception. Ana Dodson was adopted from Peru as an infant and returned for the first time at the age of eleven in the company of her mother, Judi. In addition to everything she took away from the visit in the way of personal experience and fulfillment was a compelling conviction she turned into a nonprofit organization, Peruvian Hearts, that supports an orphanage near her birthplace, the Hogar de Mercedes de Jesus Molina in the hills around Cuzco. The tale of their visit is touching to read, and… [more]

India Adoption, it’s mothers this time

August 1st, 2007

I've been writing about India, its children, India international adoptions, Indian adoption laws, problems and more for a long time now. CINI logo Over the past year-and-a-half-plus, I've posted on the nuts and bolts of the system, child labor, female infanticide in the country, changes in adoption laws, and so on. Coming across my desk today, however, is something I've not addressed. In fact, this is the first time I've seen a story like this, and I am very pleased to be writing about it today. From Kolkata ... formerly, and sometimes still, Calcutta ... an organization called the Child in Need Institute (CINI) has, since 2000, been running, in addition to other services, an… [more]

Adoption, AIDS and helping

July 22nd, 2007

A state-level orientation program on adoption was held recently in Lucknow, India, with the aim of increasing awareness locally on the issues of adoption in that country. Domestic Indian adoptions continue to lack popularity, with most people determined to avoid adopting a child. Also on the agenda, uniformity in adoption rules to remove much of what can be cumbersome when the many religions in the country approach the process. Also in India, the Central Adoption Resource Agency (CARA), has proposed that all children made available for adoption take a mandatory HIV test. This has long been on the books, but not enforced, and many are concerned about the costs. The Indian Network of People Living With HIV/AIDS is opposing the idea, insisting that… [more]

Small world gets smaller

July 18th, 2007

Issues to do with children and adoption around the world range from the widely different to basically the same, as although cultural differences abound, we are at the base of it all humans. For example, this story out of the UK illustrates how children of ethnic minorities there wait longer for placement in adoptive families ... up to three times longer ... and there are worries that placing children of color with white families can leave them "without a sense of cultural and religious identity later in life." Perhaps repeating attempts at racial placement parameters in the US in response to a 1972 policy put forth by the National Association of Black Social Workers that insisted that, "... black children belong, physically, psychologically… [more]

J.K. Rowling: International adoption overlap, Part 2

July 16th, 2007

Continued from here. Potterwand/wiki I'm not saying Jo Rowling is intentionally bankrolling clapping with one hand and sacrificing children on the alter of 'Gee, the numbers look good', but the CHLG does make me very nervous, and she is a founder ... along with Emma Nicholson, and given her history she really breaks me out in hives of anxiety and has me worrying about the kids who just might end up in her path. From their website: ... CHLG works closely with governments and officials on wider policy issues such as de-institutionalisation and child welfare. It also works proactively to promote the positive changes in child welfare that are now taking place. In Romania we are already seeing improvements. Around 22,000 Romanian children have been… [more]