Dealing with the Wait

December 6th, 2011

CribI was reading an adoption blog the other day, and the author basically said, "Sorry I haven't updated this blog for a number of months...We're still waiting for our referral...It's easier for us not to immerse ourselves in the adoption world while we wait." Huh. What a novel idea. Imagine not spending all your free time reading adoption blogs. Imagine not checking your agency's website for updates that you may have missed via email. Imagine not connecting with other adopting moms, particularly those from your agency, to share tidbits of information (which I'm sure the agencies just love). And if you're waiting for a referral, imagine not making a little wish, in the hopes that THIS is THE CALL, every time your phone rings. I… [more]

Orphan (Every)Day

November 6th, 2011

southamerica2Today was Orphan Sunday at many churches around the US. This couldn't have come at a more perfect time. Recently, Ambassador Susan Jacobs, Special Advisor for Children's Issues in the Bureau of Consular Affairs, reported that, "Last year [fiscal year 2011], US citizens adopted more than 9,000 children from countries around the world." In fiscal years 2004 and 2005, Americans adopted nearly 23,000 children each year from other countries. The number of international adoptions has been on a steady decline since then. And it seems this fiscal year, which ended September 30, is no exception. There are some obvious clues as to why international adoptions have declined. China has dramatically slowed down international adoptions. The Guatemala adoption program was very popular, and the closing… [more]

Lost Opportunity

October 6th, 2011

iStock_000014869787XSmallI am disappointed.  Disappointed at a lost opportunity. This morning, over a cup of coffee, I read this headline in the Hollywood Reporter. Jillian Michaels Warns Against International Adoption Unless You Have ‘A Lot Of Money’ In the current issue of Prevention Magazine, Michaels, a former trainer on The Biggest Loser, discusses the difficulties she’s had adopting internationally.  She left the TV reality show last December and this February announced she was adopting a child from the Democratic Republic of Congo. Celebrity adoptions are not uncommon.  Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt have adopted children from Cambodia, Ethiopia, and Vietnam.  Madonna controversially adopted a boy from Malawi.  Meg Ryan adopted a baby girl from China, and Katherine Heigl adopted a special needs daughter from Korea. When celebrities adopt… [more]

Personal Adoption Blogs

August 31st, 2011

DigitalWorldOne of my favorite ways to stay connected to the adoption process (especially when my own is uneventful at the moment) is to read other families' blogs. I have learned a lot about the process and expectations by reading about the journeys of others. And I have a renewed spirit about the process when I see someone has just gotten a referral or has arrived home with their new family member. I was thinking of starting my own personal blog, simply to keep friends and family updated, so I thought I would research requirements or recommended practices for personal adoption blogs. Here is what I learned:  

  • Foreign government officials often monitor adoption blogs. Really. Therefore, parents should be careful not to post negative or

Is International Adoption Part Of Your Family Picture? Be Aware of S.S.P.E. Measles Kills Internationally Adopted Children Through S.S.P.E. Complication

February 23rd, 2011


International adoption is a wonderful way to grow your family and share your love with a child who desperately needs a "Forever Family." If you have adopted from another country, you already know about the large amount of paperwork involved and the time it takes to complete the adoption process. The whole time, your new family member is still in another country being cared for by caregivers who are probably not doing what we would do in our country for a child. You don't know what kind of care your child is currently receiving. There are pieces of the information puzzle that are not going to be filled in by your adoption agency. You have to prepare yourself to look for specific… [more]

Santa Was Adopted, Too

December 21st, 2010

1122208_20339657One of the things I love about Christmas is the Christmas television specials. When I was little, I remember counting the days until I could watch Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer, A Charlie Brown Christmas, and How the Grinch Stole Christmas. I loved these shows, but my most favorite show was Santa Claus is Coming to town. This weekend I was watching television with my kids when I heard the distinctive voice of Fred Astaire. I think I was more excited than my daughters. As S.D. Kluger started telling the story of Santa Claus, it dawned on me…Santa was adopted. Just like Elle and Bunny! For some reason this year, I really listened to the story. I know… [more]

Back On The International Scene

April 12th, 2010

1157986_barricadaOkay, I admit it,  I've been off the International Adoption scene for quite a while.  My kiddos will be home two years next week and I find myself concentrating on all the post adoption stuff that I write about.  Every once in a while I hear something that makes me want to learn more, but honestly, I'm tired  and don't get to it.  I know that changes are happening in Ethiopia and China, I know that the earthquake in Haiti has giving some new spin on the adoption news front.  I wanted to learn more about these topics, but again, the energy is not in my body. Until this week that is.   The story that broke about the Russian adopted child being… [more]

World AIDS Day

December 1st, 2009
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1121365_single_ribbon_redDecember 1st is recognized as World AIDS Day.  You may see red ribbons everywhere and now you know why!  Last year I didn't think about World AIDS Day until the actual day.  Until April of 2008 AIDS meant nothing to me more than the average nurse:  signs and symptoms, ways it is transmitted and concern over needle sticks at work.  Now AIDS is the reason I have two of my children.  AIDS is the reason that many of us are adopting Internationally.  There are millions of children orphaned by this disease.  Millions of parents dead, leaving children to live on their own or with other family members. What can we do as parents and citizens of this world to chip away at the… [more]

The “Fear Factor” In International Adoption = Lukewarm Reception Of Your Amazing News

September 17th, 2009

837693_jump_of_joyA woman I know merely as an acquaintance sent me a long and emotional email this afternoon. The long and short of it? She and her husband made the decision, after over a decade of infertility, to move forth with the plans to adopt a daughter from China. They (S. and her husband) invited both sets of their parents to dinner, and made a special “you’re going to be grandparents!” cake to break the big news. Evidently, the reception of said news was a bit underwhelming. S. and her husband were, quite understandably, crushed. Do I think the grandparents were disappointed? Not necessarily. I think most of it has to do with their frame of reference and understanding of the international adoption process… [more]

Future Adoptive Families Need Our Help

June 18th, 2009

Cost is a huge factor in adoption. Many people do not even look into the adoption process because of the common belief that only the wealthy can adopt. The Adoption Tax Credit the U.S. Government offers is an amazing resource that can really make adoption a reality for many families. Personally, I don't think we could have adopted our two girls without knowing that we would get a lot of the money back. As much as we wanted to adopt, we didn't want to morgage the next ten years of our lives either. For those of you new to the adoption scene. The Adoption Tax Credit is currently at $12,150 per adoption. This is a TAX CREDIT, not a deduction… [more]