Lost Opportunity

October 6th, 2011

iStock_000014869787XSmallI am disappointed.  Disappointed at a lost opportunity. This morning, over a cup of coffee, I read this headline in the Hollywood Reporter. Jillian Michaels Warns Against International Adoption Unless You Have ‘A Lot Of Money’ In the current issue of Prevention Magazine, Michaels, a former trainer on The Biggest Loser, discusses the difficulties she’s had adopting internationally.  She left the TV reality show last December and this February announced she was adopting a child from the Democratic Republic of Congo. Celebrity adoptions are not uncommon.  Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt have adopted children from Cambodia, Ethiopia, and Vietnam.  Madonna controversially adopted a boy from Malawi.  Meg Ryan adopted a baby girl from China, and Katherine Heigl adopted a special needs daughter from Korea. When celebrities adopt… [more]

Personal Adoption Blogs

August 31st, 2011

DigitalWorldOne of my favorite ways to stay connected to the adoption process (especially when my own is uneventful at the moment) is to read other families' blogs. I have learned a lot about the process and expectations by reading about the journeys of others. And I have a renewed spirit about the process when I see someone has just gotten a referral or has arrived home with their new family member. I was thinking of starting my own personal blog, simply to keep friends and family updated, so I thought I would research requirements or recommended practices for personal adoption blogs. Here is what I learned:  

  • Foreign government officials often monitor adoption blogs. Really. Therefore, parents should be careful not to post negative or

Is International Adoption Part Of Your Family Picture? Be Aware of S.S.P.E. Measles Kills Internationally Adopted Children Through S.S.P.E. Complication

February 23rd, 2011


International adoption is a wonderful way to grow your family and share your love with a child who desperately needs a "Forever Family." If you have adopted from another country, you already know about the large amount of paperwork involved and the time it takes to complete the adoption process. The whole time, your new family member is still in another country being cared for by caregivers who are probably not doing what we would do in our country for a child. You don't know what kind of care your child is currently receiving. There are pieces of the information puzzle that are not going to be filled in by your adoption agency. You have to prepare yourself to look for specific… [more]

Santa Was Adopted, Too

December 21st, 2010

1122208_20339657One of the things I love about Christmas is the Christmas television specials. When I was little, I remember counting the days until I could watch Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer, A Charlie Brown Christmas, and How the Grinch Stole Christmas. I loved these shows, but my most favorite show was Santa Claus is Coming to town. This weekend I was watching television with my kids when I heard the distinctive voice of Fred Astaire. I think I was more excited than my daughters. As S.D. Kluger started telling the story of Santa Claus, it dawned on me…Santa was adopted. Just like Elle and Bunny! For some reason this year, I really listened to the story. I know… [more]

Back On The International Scene

April 12th, 2010

1157986_barricadaOkay, I admit it,  I've been off the International Adoption scene for quite a while.  My kiddos will be home two years next week and I find myself concentrating on all the post adoption stuff that I write about.  Every once in a while I hear something that makes me want to learn more, but honestly, I'm tired  and don't get to it.  I know that changes are happening in Ethiopia and China, I know that the earthquake in Haiti has giving some new spin on the adoption news front.  I wanted to learn more about these topics, but again, the energy is not in my body. Until this week that is.   The story that broke about the Russian adopted child being… [more]

International Adoption In The News

June 17th, 2009

A few updates in the world of International Adoption: Madonna's petetion for adoption of a little girl is granted the second time around from the courts of Malawi. Malawi's adoption laws normally require adoptive parents to live in country for a long period of time and Madonna's lack of residence has caused quite the stir in the International Community. To learn more about Malawi adoptions you can check out Adoption.com or the U.S. State Department. I have voiced my thoughts on Madonna's adoptions from Malawi in previous blogs and love to hear other people's perspectives. Nepal is starting to process adoption again in limited cases. There is no guartentee that families who were in the process of adopting when adoptions were suspended a while… [more]

Hello from Mandy!

January 16th, 2009

Hello everyone! We are a busy family of four girls: Meg (9), Mita (9), Enu (6 1/2) and Elle (4), a wonderful husband and father, Paul, and me, Mandy. We brought Mita and Enu to their forever home in April 2008 from Ethiopia. You may have noticed by the ages that we did “twin” our oldest and go out of birth order. We choose older child adoption of a sibling set for many reasons that I will write about throughout my blogging. We are ten months into having the girls home and all I can say is I am tired, but so very blessed by my family. We prepared for the worst, hoped for the best and have been pleasantly surprised at how well it is all going… [more]

A conversation about adoption guilt

October 26th, 2007
Categories: Adoption stories

I began a comment on Lisa's Guatemalan Blog for today that ended up growing out of that box and begging for its own, so I'm giving in and making a comment a post in its own right. Lisa's post was a response to an article in Mother Jones by a woman who adopted from Guatemala and now wonders out loud and publicly, "Did I steal my daughter?". Reaction to the article has been varied in the adoption community. (How's that for an understatement? Not to mention a line worth one great big "Duh!" since there is no such thing as a personal account of a view of any slice of the adoption pie that isn't immediately fought over until the last crumb has been… [more]

Adult adoptee perspective

October 8th, 2007
Categories: Adoption stories

There is a great deal of criticism in some circles when it comes to the international adoption reality of removing a child from one country and raising him in another. Terms as strong and emotive as "cultural genocide" and "racism" are tossed around like grenades, and the whole idea of international adoption is condemned as evil or tragic or both. Children adopted from a country may be thought to have been robbed of their culture, and there is no shortage of adult adoptees who are happy to back up this idea with resentments over the fact that they don't speak the language of their birth country nor feel they truly fit when they return after a life lived elsewhere. Dire circumstance can be deemed no excuse for removing a child from a birth… [more]

Adoption: Lebanon

July 23rd, 2007

Although adoption from Lebanon isn't big enough for a Yahoo group or its own category on the Adoption.com forums, it does happen, and it does make the news. This story about a family from New Hampshire proves it ... but Boy Howdy!!! it ain't easy, or often. According to the US State Department Website's page on adoption from Lebanon, only four immigrant visas were issued for adoptees in 2006. Laura Gabriel's family counts for one of those. Laura's husband, Scot, comes from Lebanese stock, so adopting from there had appeal. The couple went to Beirut to begin the process in May of 2006. Weeks later, Scot returned home, and left Laura to finalize. The child, a now 19-month-old boy named Logan… [more]