Going Home

October 13th, 2011

iStock_000009028466XSmallHome is where the heart is.  But, for my daughters, their hearts aren’t just under my roof. As internationally adopted children, I know a part of them still resides in their birth countries.  As they grow up as red, white, and blue Americans, Elle is still Russian, and Bunny is still Guatemalan. And I love that about them. We recently celebrated Bunny’s Adoption Day, the day we brought her home.  Although I punted on making tamales, I did have cake.  While we enjoyed her red velvet cake, she asked when Elle’s A-Day was.  It’s in June.  Then she asked when her daddy’s A-Day was and then when was mine. We told her we didn’t have A-Days because we weren’t adopted.  Then she questioned our citizenship.  Apparently… [more]

Tamales and Borscht

September 27th, 2011

Tamale, traditional food from Latin AmericaTomorrow is Bunny’s adoption day.  It’s been six years since we brought our little bundle of joy home from Guatemala.  Every year I think about holding her in my arms knowing she was finally mine. In years past we have celebrated with cake and singing, taking time to celebrate the expansion of our family.  Rather than sugary sweet confections this year, I’ve decided I want to try something different.  Tamales.  I want to make tamales. Tamales from Guatemala are different than the Mexican tamales we typically see.  They are usually wrapped in banana or plantain leaves rather than in corn husks, and they are smaller, although there are more variations than there are Guatemalan regions. I’ve been searching around the… [more]

Scissors and Crayons

September 20th, 2011

iStock_000014990202XSmallSometimes international adoption can throw a curve ball when you least expect it. When Elle was in the lower grades of elementary school, she brought home an assignment.  They had been studying the 50 states in school and how the states related to the students.  The worksheet was a map of the United States with \instructions to color in the state where they were born. This presented a problem for Elle.  She wasn’t born in the US.  She was born in Russia.  She could have colored in the state I lived in when I adopted her, or she could have colored in the state that had recognized her foreign adoption, but neither of those choices seemed right. My husband and I stared at each other… [more]

I Wish I Had Known

April 8th, 2011

wishingI recently came across an article on NPR, Fewer Russian Adoptions Since Mom Sends Son Back. I hadn’t realized it has been a year since Torry Hansen bought a one-way ticket to Moscow and sent her adopted son back to Russia.  I try not to judge others because no one can ever understand the true story behind the scenes.  Like most, I was outraged, but my focus was directed at the system rather than at Torry and her poor decision. When my husband and I started our Russian adoption journey 13 years ago, we were required to attend parenting classes at our adoption agency.  One session was about which particular country we wanted to adopt from.  One session was on the paperwork… [more]

Where Do Babies Come From?

February 23rd, 2011

Stork & BabyNow that Bunny has turned six, I am anticipating the question all parents dread…where do babies come from?  Six years ago when Elle was getting ready to ask the question, I did my homework.  Rather than write an elaborate answer with technical terms and diagrams, I did the smart thing.  I bought a book with a lot of colored pictures…age appropriate pictures, of course. Actually, I bought three books, each containing the basic information with cute cartoon characters dressed up as sperm and eggs, and each geared towards a different age range.  I felt it would be easier to hand Elle a book, let her read it, then let her ask me any question she wanted.  My plan has worked well. … [more]

Baby Exportation

February 18th, 2011

World trade concept. Globe surrounded by shipping containers.I recently wrote in Castes and Prejudice that “children were not produce.”  Children are not a commodity to be bought and sold like bananas and brussels sprouts.  So, when I was skimming my Google Alerts regarding international adoption, I read an article about Korean adoptions, Korea Still Relies On International Adoption, from The Korea Herald.  The article stated that in 2009, Korea was the fourth largest “baby exporting country” of children into the United States.  The term jumped off the page and straight into my face. I’ve read and studied the statistics of international adoption for years, but there was something about seeing internationally adopted children referred to as an exportable commodity that bothered… [more]

Flags of Heritage

January 6th, 2011

533821_41933236When you adopt children internationally, the adoption agency always asks how you intend to keep the link between your child and their birth country. At the time, I thought that was a silly question, and I had so many other things to worry about at the time. I don't remember what I answered, but it must have been enough to appease the agency, and the foreign courts. Once we arrived home, I didn't think much about my daughters’ heritage. With Elle, if you didn't know she was adopted, you would never guess she was from Russia. With Bunny, it is a bit more obvious considering her dark skin, black eyes, and ability to swing her hips to any music… [more]

I’m So Sorry…Let Me Introduce Myself

December 9th, 2010

shaking handsI am Lanita M, one of the new bloggers for Adoption.com. I am so excited to have the opportunity to share my stories of; outlooks on; and experiences with international adoption. After reading the wonderful introductions from Margie C and Amy B, I realize I have been remiss in not introducing myself. I am the adoptive mother of two daughters. My daughter, Elle, is 12 and was adopted from Russia. Bunny is my spunky five year old adopted from Guatemala. Both girls were adopted as infants, Elle at 9 months and Bunny and 7 ½ months. I adopted Elle after I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 32. After being given a clean bill of… [more]

God Must Have Had a Reason

December 8th, 2010

oppositesI’m sure we are all familiar with the saying that there is a reason for everything. I am a firm believer in this sentiment. Most of the time I don’t know or understand the reasoning behind it, but I rest with the knowledge there is one. When it was time to adopt my children, I think God was having a humorous day. He must have had the giggles when he decided which children I would receive. On one hand, Elle, my 12 year old from Russia, is tall, lean and blonde. Like a dog, I could tell how big she was going to be when I looked at her feet. Bunny, on the other hand, my five year old… [more]

Russia Adoption In The News

April 19th, 2010
Categories: Russia

russiaAs I mentioned last week, the recent news story of an American adoptive mother sending her son back to Russia has caused me to start focusing on International Adoption once again.  I have read more essay's, blogs and news articles on this situation and here are a few that really helped me decide on what exactly I think of this situation. An adoptive father's essay on NPR.   Melissa Faye Greene's blog.   Dawn Davenport's Blog   From the agency that the adoptive mother used in this case. As of now all adoptions between Russia and the US have been put on hold for a few weeks at least.  This leaves a lot of waiting parents and waiting children in a limbo that has to… [more]