Fessing up

May 10th, 2007
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I've been called to task, and must fess up ... I owe a reporter from the New York Post an apology. It seems that in my haste to leap in a direction that would put my too substantial bulk between another media slam on the Angelina Jolie adoption fracas and my readers, I went all sloppy with my work. Not only was I so enthused about posting a response to what I thought was a response to my response that I completely missed the fact that the story I took to be recent was actually four months old, I also jumped to the conclusion that my opinion had originally been solicited because I'd been misquoted all over the place not long before. According the the the reporter, Kathianne Boniello… [more]

Some things about me …

October 1st, 2006
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I've been resisting this "things about me" list mania that my fellow bloggers have taken up, but this being the first of the month, and with me close to brain dead after publishing 86 blog posts last month, I'm going to go for it rather than come up with something interesting. I will not be listing 100 things ... not even 86 ... as there are too many things about me that are, quite frankly either not at all relevant to the part of me that writes this blog, or not your business to know. Also, since there's already a lot you do know ... I have four kids, I adore them, Sam and Cj were born in Cambodia, I have a five-year old… [more]

This is a test …

August 5th, 2006
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A "Dr. Phil" test is circulating around the internet these days ... whoever the heck Dr. Phil is! ... and I found it interesting enough to pass along here today. The idea is to answer the multiple choice questions quickly and honestly, and supposedly you'll get some insight into yourself. Apparently, companies are using this to learn about potential employees ... as if they have any right to ask about sleeping habits! Anyway ... grab a some paper and a pen, number from one to ten, and here we go: 1. When do you feel your best? a) in the morning b) during the afternoon &and early evening c) late at night 2. You usually walk... a) fairly fast, with long steps b) fairly fast, with little steps c) less fast head up… [more]

This is the world my kids get, no matter what I think

July 6th, 2006
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So, I've been going on and on about the world getting smaller and the cultural gaps growing tiny in the modern world ... Here was a shop IN SEYCHELLES that had: potato chips, pancake mix AND syrup, disposable diapers NOT from China, 50 kinds of shampoo, 20 varieties of olive oil, real yogurt, a huge selection of breakfast cereals, Oreo cookies, cake mixes, nuts, raisins, all sorts of dishwashing liquids, razors WITH extra blades, fresh asparagus, real cheese in more than one shape, smell and color, and on and on and on. The goods were arranged on shelves with prices indicated! The aisles were wide enough for shopping carts that really rolled! There was staff answering questions and being helpful! Gay and I kept looking at each… [more]

Part Three of The Small World Tangent

July 6th, 2006
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Continued from previous posts ... I've written before about shopping in Seychelles and how sparse our shelves can be. Even with shopping options as limited as they are today, the choice is so much wider than in Mark's youth. When he was growing up, most food on offer was local, and that meant fish, fish and more fish, with some cassava, lots of bananas, a bit of rice (imported), breadfruit in season, a bit of pork, the occasional curried fruit bat, and fruity fruits (breadfruit being more like potato than anything else) at certain times of the year. When we met, Mark had never tasted: real cheese, good red wine, Mexican food, BBQ sauce, a decent burger, cheesecake, good steak, Shredded Wheat… [more]

Small World Worries (How where you live makes a difference … maybe?) Cont.

July 5th, 2006
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The train continues ... Last night we had a family DVD session and Mark picked the Disney classic "Peter Pan" for our viewing pleasure. Sam's been watching it often and does some pretty good renditions of bits with voices and actions all straight from the film. Mark's heard his impressions, but never having seen the film he had no frame with which to reference "What ever shall we do?" ... and so on. Throughout the movie, Mark asked questions and made comments: They had a dog as a babysitter? Did those parents just lock their kids in the house and leave? Peter Pan was really just a nasty kid. Tinkerbell is dressed pretty scantily. What's that about? ... and more like that. While he's experiencing the whole Peter Pan gig… [more]

Small World Worries (How where you live makes a difference … maybe?)

July 5th, 2006
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When my husband, Mark, was growing up in Seychelles life was pretty basic. (Keep in mind that he was born in 1966, not 1926, so it wasn't all that long ago.) There was no electricity until after he left the nest, and my in-laws didn't have a phone until the mid-90s. A small generator was used in the evenings in his later childhood, but kerosene lanterns provided most light, food was bought and used daily as there was no refrigeration, and washing was all done by hand. One of the many long-lasting effects of this quaint, and in some ways idyllic, childhood comes up with us often ... his almost total lack of cultural references. Juxtaposed against my American background ... my 1950s and '60s in-the-middle-of-it-all youth… [more]

Same-Sex Couples and International Adoption

June 26th, 2006
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A lovely report from Santa Cruz, California has me pondering an issue that comes up often in the international adoption world. The story is about Lisa and Jennifer, a lesbian couple who've adopted twins from Russia. Their tale is sweet and loving, and has, at this time, a happy ending. "I had always envisioned having children," said Jennifer, sitting in their backyard and smiling, her dark hair curling softly around her face. "It had been my lifelong dream," she added. And Lisa, blue eyes sparkling, said she too had wanted a family. Both women had been waiting for the right person to come along. And when that happened, it opened the door to the possibility of having a family just a bit wider. "I started to… [more]

Book Review and a couple of “What the Hecks” …

June 19th, 2006
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A new book by Anne Tyler ("Breathing Lessons", "The Accidental Tourist") has international adoption at the root. "Digging to "America", fiction focusing on the parents' point of view, is getting good reviews: In her latest novel, "Digging to America," Anne Tyler flips this perspective on its head, focusing instead on the way international adoptions are experienced by the parents. Tyler, author of the Pulitzer Prize-winning novel "Breathing Lessons," has routinely delivered deft, funny novels that explore the longing of adults, and this one continues engagingly in that vein. The story begins as the infants Jin-Ho and Sooki arrive at the Baltimore airport. There, Jin-Ho is delivered into the arms of Brad and Bitsy Donaldson, two middle-aged WASPs, and Sooki goes home with Sami and Ziba Yazdan… [more]

You Can Call Me … ?

June 17th, 2006
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Among the Dyaks, the tribal people of Borneo, it is common for a person's name to change many times over the course of their life. When they're born, they're called something ugly and distasteful ... literally ... like worm or slug, in hopes of keeping spirits from finding the little darlings too tempting to leave in the worldly realm. The occasion of the first birthday is celebrated with a naming ceremony where the baby gets the adorable moniker parents have been longing to bestow. This sticks until adulthood and parenthood, as the naming of a baby has an immediate effect on others at that time. At the time the baby becomes, say, Sam, the names his parents received at their own naming ceremonies… [more]