International Adoption Blog

06/10/07

When poop is just poop

elepoo/©2007 SHBenoiton
It's not been long since I felt compelled to address a poorly composed bit of tripe from anti-adoption swill-tosser and Origins co-founder Mirah (aka Marsha) Riben.

The last time, she was slinging words that accused international adoptive parents of being racists and perpetrators of "cultural genocide".

(For a look at this from an cultural anthropologists view, see this post from January.)

Apparently stepping up the attack on international adoption and trying to build some momentum behind her 'cause', Mothers Day must have seemed too magnetic an attraction to let go by without attaching some bottom-feeder fodder, and a celeb name to grab attention:

"A Mothers' Day Letter to Angelina Jolie ...

... and all considering international adoption ... "

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Oh, paaaaleeeeeeaase!

Even to as big a fan of the ellipsis as I am, such indiscriminant and enthusiastic use does not convey value on the words contained between the dots.

And could more blatant pandering be plastered as a headline? I suppose I should simply wait for her next piece of work to find out.

This one, however, will not go without a word or 300 from me.

Starting off with a simpy "I cannot help but wonder ..." Golly gee whiz and shucks, Ange, old buddy, I'm just trying to set you straight here, are you "aware" that there are kids in foster care in Amercia, and that if everyone adopting internationally adopted from foster care in America instead there would be fewer kids in foster care in America?

Someone inhabiting a narrow world could find that a credible argument against international adoption, I suppose. After all, aren't American kids SO much more important, valuable and worthy of a loving family than any of them ferriners?

I love the "I was always taught that charity begins at home" line she drops in, too. It has such a nice touch of feigned humility overlaid with a hint of superiority, then WHAM!, it immediately turns and sticks a knife in: "I wonder why you, and others who adopt internationally, turn their back on these children."

Yuck.

Sometimes it is so very easy to win at a game of 'spot the agenda', even when someone is purporting to be saying something completely different than what is actually being said.

As Riben obviously feels she must, trying to look informed and balanced and all, she plunks the The Adoption Institute and Ethica into her blather without linking to anything specific ... all the better to give an impression of corroboration ... then takes more than 200 words from David Smolen's diatribe on adoption I wrote about recently, concerned that it would be grazed like pollen on stink weed by the anti-adoption brigade.

She blah-blahs on, as usual, hitting all the emotive buttons she can -- bribery, kidnapping, profiteering, sale into adoption -- eventually coming around to her big finish ... one of the dumbest sentences I've ever read on the topic from any pinheaded direction:

Isn’t it far more compassionate to use wealth – such as that of Angelina Jolie – to help an entire village rather than ”rescue” one child in a fashion that some criticize as supporting a network of corrupt child traffickers?


Would anyone like to guide this deluded, confused, blinkered and agenda-burdened woman toward any of the miles of column inches that exist on how much of Angelina Jolie's wealth goes to helping 'entire villages' (including New Orleans), or what sort of contributions Raising Malawi has made toward the lives of children in that country thanks to Madonna? (She's slammed in the article in spirit, even if she's not mentioned.)

You might also want to point out that tacking the word "traffickers" to the end of a piece doesn't imbue the preceding pap with gravitas.

There are issues surrounding international adoption, but this simplistic bombast, as with other Mirah (aka Marsha)-esque tirades plopped all over the Internet like remnants of an elephant's breakfast after having passed through the digestive tract, making its malodorous appearance with a heavy thud does not mean there are any golden balls of wisdom to be found amidst the steaming verbiage. Most often, as with so much in life, poop is just poop.

Comments, Pingbacks:

Comment from: Virginia M. Citrano [Member] Email · http://russia.adoptionblogs.com/
BRAVO!
PermalinkPermalink 06/10/07 @ 04:08
Comment from: thomasina [Member] Email
While reading the blog this morning, I will admit that I was attracted to your post more because of the attractive photo and scatalogical title than because I held a strong opinion about the topic. I read through what you wrote and followed the links you provided and feel a little confused. I think had you used a point/counterpoint strategy I would have seen where your arguments were going. The only one I got was the one about the Jolie-Pitt family's broader philanthropic work on the behalf of children. The rest just seems angry and emotional. Please explicate.
PermalinkPermalink 06/10/07 @ 07:44
Comment from: AdoptionBlogs Editor [Member] Email · http://editor.adoptionblogs.com
I'm not confused at all! Great blog!
PermalinkPermalink 06/10/07 @ 08:13
Comment from: soblessed [Member] Email
I find Sandra's words to be perfectly clear in meaning and content. I also find them to be emotional....which I also find to be perfectly logical.

Anger is an appropriate response to the slander found in M. Riben's poorly researched and obviously biased work.

PermalinkPermalink 06/10/07 @ 11:22
Comment from: thomasina [Member] Email
Wow! Sorry. I thought I was allowed to have an opinion. This was not meant as an attack. It was honest feedback. I do understand the emotion behind the post. However, keep in mind that I am reading both sides as objectively as I can, as an outsider. I don't know anything about M. Riben nor S. Benoiton and wasn't prepared to be on either "side." I am not categorically anti-adoption and I do not automatically make negative assumptions about people who choose to adopt internationally. However, I do have a colleague who is both a Humanities professor and the wife of a Haitian immigrant. She expressed some of the same concerns M. Riben did when I, after reading the former Haiti bloggers posts, asked her why Haiti was making it so difficult to bring adopted children back to the U.S. My goal in reading this blog today was to get more information. I thought it might have been easier part the sea of emotion and get to the information if the objections to M. Riben's article had been made point/counterpoint style. That's all...Geez.
PermalinkPermalink 06/10/07 @ 14:44
Comment from: soblessed [Member] Email
Thomasina,

I certainly was not prohibiting your opinion.....I was expressing my own, as I assume the others were.

I'm curious as to what was in our posts that made you feel like we were not allowing you your opinion?
PermalinkPermalink 06/10/07 @ 18:33
Comment from: Chromesthesia [Member] Email
Can't blame her for being somewhat frustrated.
I just read a few anti-adoption sites...
It's enough to drive me mad, especially when they compare adoption to slavery.
That's just offensive to me as an African American.
There are abuses that need to be addressed and taken care of, but what's the use in suggesting that adoptions should be banned?
If people educate themselves on the issues involved, if they learn as much as they can about the countries, or don't regard adoption as something inferior to making babies from scratch, then prehaps things will get better, but not with constant negativity from people who don't know all the issues.
Like totally downplaying the plight of abused children in the foster care system.
Why do I stress myself out like this?
Perhaps it was different in the past, we do need to get educated about that.
Are things getting better?
PermalinkPermalink 06/10/07 @ 20:01
Comment from: adoptivemom [Member] Email
Chromesthia,

I am sorry that it offends you. You can take your concerns up with Reverend Ken Hutcherson of the Antioch Bible Church qho is among those concerned with racial issues in private adoption, questioning the difference between those who “sell by supply and demand” and slavery. Hutcherson says, “When a couple seeking to adopt a white baby is charged $35,000 and a couple seeking a black baby is charged $4,000,” the image that comes to mind is of “a practice that was outlawed in America nearly one hundred and fifty years ago—the buying and selling of human beings.” Dean Schabner, “Why It Costs More to Adopt a White Baby.” ABC News, March 12, http://abcnews.go.com/U.S./story?id=91834&page=1.

I also suggest you read the reviews of The Stork Market in the following Black Press:
AALBC.com, The African American Literature Book Club, News Blaze, Dallas Black, Blacksonville, Chicken Bones, The Phildelphia Sun, Urban Spectrum. Also syndicated in: Los Angeles Sentinel pg B-6, 5/3/07, Black Star News pg 17, 4/4/07, Caribbean Life pg 50, 4/11/07, Philadelphia Sunday Sun pg 23, 5/6/07.

I agree totally that people need to educate themselves on the issues. If they did they would know that one of Ms. Riben's biggest concern is the light of children in foster care.

Are things getting better? NO! Adoption is a multi-billion dollar unregulated industry and children are its commodity!

PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 01:26
Comment from: adoptivemom [Member] Email
You have links to links and yet I find no where anything Riben wrote with these farcical quotes. Could you please provide your readers with that information directly?
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 07:51
Comment from: Sandra Hanks Benoiton [Member] Email · http://international.adoptionblogs.com/
The quotes are not attributed to Riben.

Please, read all the words. They make sentences that way. Linking them together in the mind is called 'reading'.

Reading also involves thought, which I understand is uncomfortable for some, but is actually good exercise and worth the effort.

Those who do not wish to participate in either the reading part or the thought part are excused from the discussion.

PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 08:16
Comment from: truthinadption [Member] Email
"Reading also involves thought, which I understand is uncomfortable for some, but is actually good exercise and worth the effort."

Coulnd't agree more!


Those who do not read books should refrain from bashing them!

PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 09:44
Comment from: AdoptionBlogs Editor [Member] Email · http://editor.adoptionblogs.com
I think people are getting a bit confused with the article that Riben wrote and the books that she's written. In case you are confused, this blog is in response to an ARTICLE written by Riben and linked to directly in this blog.

For anyone who didn't catch it, here is the link:
http://www.opednews.com/articles/opedne_mirah_ri_070512_a_mothers__day_lette.htm

This is not a review of ANY of Riben's books. Again, it is a response to her article printed in OpEdNews.com entitled: "A Mother's Day Letter to Angelina Jolie".
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 10:12
Comment from: truthinadption [Member] Email
I have read all of Riben's books and articles.An not one slams adoptive mothers (or fathers) excerpt those who have abused children in their car.

Ms. Benoiton is upset and offended that international adoption is being scrutinized by the Russian, Romanian, and Guatemalan governments and wants to shoot the messenger. Riben doesn't make up fact; she is a researcher and a good and accurate one. She reports on the issues and the facts. Her position regarding international adoption is that of UNICEF, CRS and the Hague Convention.

Her fairness and accuracy in reporting the facts led to her book being positively reviewed by Resolve and FACE. Those reviews, and others, are available at:
www.AdvocatePublications.com with further description of both of Riben's books.
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 14:38
Comment from: AdoptionBlogs Editor [Member] Email · http://editor.adoptionblogs.com
Thank you, Truthinadoption, or should I say Mirah, for posting a link to your website. We should note here that one would, of course, have positive reviews on a website where they are trying to sell their books.

Since this is such an interesting dialog and people are actually trying to inform themselves and make educated decisions, I'll be happy to leave the comment and link up.
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 16:49
Comment from: soblessed [Member] Email
Okay, I posted this on the other comment section (on the above post), but it is very busy over there and I'm not sure I'll get an answer.

My question is: Is the author of the books and articles in question, Ms. M. Riben, posting on Sandra's blogs comments as someone else, namely truthinadoption, prasing M. Riben's works which are, in fact, her own? And then linking to a website where said works are sold?

This, if true, would seriously call the author's character, and honesty, into question, which is what prompted Ms. Benoiton's blog in the first place.

THis seems to be of importance to clear up prior to any further discussion of the original article/books.

Please advise.
PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 18:50
Comment from: Sandra Hanks Benoiton [Member] Email · http://international.adoptionblogs.com/
I'm just waking up over on this side of the globe, which is why my editor was policing the site for the last hours.

Yes, 'truthinadoption' is Mirah Riben posing as someone else.

PermalinkPermalink 06/11/07 @ 20:55
Comment from: soblessed [Member] Email
Well, then....I think that speaks for itself.

If the author of these works is deceitful enough to post as someone else, praising herself in an attempt to sell books, then not only is it the height of hubris, it discredits her. Why on earth would I believe the "statistics" of someone who is that decietful?

Just goes to show ya. Go with your gut; it's rarely wrong. And my gut is to pass over Ms. Riben's work as not worth my time, effort or money. I will be these hard-earned commodities to use with someone I can believe in.

Keep up the good work, Sandra!!
PermalinkPermalink 06/12/07 @ 04:24
Comment from: soblessed [Member] Email
Wow. Comments are fast and furious on the above post, but nothing here since "truthinadoption" was exposed to be Ms. Riben, promoting herself.

No apology or owning up, either. Hmmm.
PermalinkPermalink 06/12/07 @ 09:23
Comment from: Deb Donatti [Member] Email · http://open.adoptionblogs.com
soblesssed, I think she was shows herself under some other assumed names as well...
PermalinkPermalink 06/12/07 @ 15:04
Comment from: soblessed [Member] Email
I suggested this on the other thread and was accused of paranoia...

It is highly unlikely to be paranoia, at least in it's clinical sense, if more than one person has the same idea. Therefore, I can only conclude that there is a likelihood that I'm correct. Which brings me back to my original question regarding character.
PermalinkPermalink 06/12/07 @ 18:40
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