Comments on: “Saving” a Life: When Well-Meaning Comments Leave a Bad Taste in Your Mouth http://international.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/saving-a-life-when-well-meaning-comments Adoption information on intercountry adoption process, \"How to\", worldwide adoption news, adoption advocacy and reform, adoption travel and birth country visits, adoption stories, parenting international kids. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:12:24 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Lisa B http://international.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/saving-a-life-when-well-meaning-comments/comment-page-1#comment-1406 Lisa B Thu, 13 Aug 2009 16:17:46 +0000 http://internationa.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/08/12/saving-a-life-when-well-meaning-comments#comment-1406 The "saving the child" sentiment cuts both ways as most people who think like that also think that the child should show unending appreciation for a choice that they had no part in making.<br /> <br /> I can't tell you how many times I was told how "lucky" I was and how much undying gratitude I should have for my family "saving me." As a kid, I never understood that attitude--my parents were my parents, end of story. <br /> <br /> Thanks so much for this article--I just found myself nodding all the way through! The “saving the child” sentiment cuts both ways as most people who think like that also think that the child should show unending appreciation for a choice that they had no part in making.

I can’t tell you how many times I was told how “lucky” I was and how much undying gratitude I should have for my family “saving me.” As a kid, I never understood that attitude–my parents were my parents, end of story.

Thanks so much for this article–I just found myself nodding all the way through!

]]> By: Mandy W http://international.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/saving-a-life-when-well-meaning-comments/comment-page-1#comment-1405 Mandy W Thu, 13 Aug 2009 13:50:06 +0000 http://internationa.www.adoptionblogs.com/2009/08/12/saving-a-life-when-well-meaning-comments#comment-1405 Well said! I hate the "saving the child" sentiment. It's hard not to roll my eyes at it! Well said! I hate the “saving the child” sentiment. It’s hard not to roll my eyes at it!

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