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04/26/07

Slamming Adoption: Don't let it slide

Posted by : Sandra Hanks Benoiton in International Adoption Blog at 09:02 am , 425 words, 181 views  
Categories: Adoption Advocacy
In my continuing efforts to expose hidden agendas, to pull back the blanket and show the ugly face hiding under covers of "caring" or "research" or "information", I'm following along on the post I wrote a couple of days ago that did just that.

A couple of people left comments disagreeing with my assessment. A "law review article", according to one comment, " ... need not be written without opinions, observations or even a smattering of inside information."

Dandy. It could, however, refrain from the spurious, the emotive and the insulting.

Over the last couple of days, I've been coming across another article that appears to be getting picked up here and there. I ignored it at first, it being just too, too trashy-ignorant-to-stupid-simplistic and total rubbish to do anything but ignore.

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Tossing around intentional slams like, "adoption is racist", "cultural genocide", "Madonna was criticized and Angelina confounds", "so-called orphans" and blah, blah, blah, this piece was so obviously written not to educate, but to smear, that I allowed myself to think that no one of reasonable intelligence would give it any attention at all.

Today, when I came across the piece AGAIN in exactly the same form ... predigested and not needing regurgitation ... it dawned on me that there's been a concerted effort to pass this trash from site to site from someone who figures there's a future in slurring if it's done often enough.

Sure enough.

This time, though, there's no shilly-shallying, no watermarks or law school hoo-has. This time it's Origins.

Not familiar with Origins? Then you must be new to the adoption world.

Origins is made up primarily of birth mothers. Angry, resentful ... hateful, I would not be going out on a limb to say ... birth mothers, who detest everything about adoption, are none too fond of adoptive parents (meaning they'd like to see all of us take a short drop and a sudden stop), and who'll bite the lips off any adoptee who doesn't completely and totally agree that their life has been a living hell because they were adopted.

But don't take my word for it. For an overview, check out the alt.adoption group and search there for all posts about Origins, or read anywhere else Origins comes up against reasonable people making valid points.

As for this article, there's a place on the site I saw today that allows for contact with the editor of the publication. I strongly suggest people do exactly that, although the registration process is a bit of a pain. This stuff shouldn't go without comment.

Comments, Pingbacks:

Comment from: Chromesthesia [Member] Email
Sounds like something that would frustrate me. I empathize, but I do not like it when folks use broad sweeping language to try to clear the board when it really would hurt a lot more people than help.
There has to be a calmer approach to creating adoption reforms WITHOUT throwing all the babies out with the bathwater.

Also, it rankles me when adoption is compared to slavery. Do they even know what slavery was like? And how is it cultural genocide? Especially when there are some really bad things that need to be addressed that they are ignoring completely! GRAH! *exists in a state of perpetual indignation*
PermalinkPermalink 04/26/07 @ 09:47
Comment from: Deb Donatti [Member] Email · http://open.adoptionblogs.com
Sandra, You must have missed this drivel had already made it's appearance here, go check out...
http://news.adoption.com/
and look under April 25th.
It was on the front page of Adoption.com news, unfortunately.
PermalinkPermalink 04/26/07 @ 18:36
Comment from: Lisa [Member] Email · http://guatemala.adoptionblogs.com
I went to the sight, and there is an article there that I responded to some blogs back.
Good for you for bringing it up again - what friggin angers me are the TREMENDOUS inaccuracies.
L.
PermalinkPermalink 04/26/07 @ 19:02
Comment from: AdopTalk [Member] Email
If you want people to see what OriginsUSA is all about, why not send them to the correct website:

www.originsusa.org/

Yes, some mothers are angry at the lack of proper counseling they received, the coercion, the pressure to relinquish their infants to supply a demand. Others are angry that promises of openness turned out to be fraudulent or simply unkept. Others still, are angry that their children did not get "the better life" they were promised, but were abused physically or emotionally, or simply denied the same human rights as non-adopted citizens in regard to their own birth records and medical history.

So, too are many adoptive - and prospective adoptive parents - angry at being ripped off by a privatized exploitive adoption system. And, so too, are many adult adoptees angry at begin denied the truth of their identity, or having been made to feel abandoned and grateful for being "rescued" and ungrateful for their natural curiosity.

Adoption is not a win-win for all parties.

Mirah Riben, author
PermalinkPermalink 06/06/07 @ 00:27
Comment from: AdopTalk [Member] Email
When a mother loses a child to SIDS, or stillbirth, miscarriage, or even suffers infertility...does she not feel anger, deprsssion, grief, tremendous loss? Does she not warrant sympathy, compassion and understanding?

Why then it is shocking that mothers who lose children to adoption feel the same? Because it is perceived by others as having been "for the best" she should not feel the loss? Why is some mothers less deserving of any compassion and understanding, but instead viewed as being "bitter" when they cry out in pain from their loss?

Could it because to acknowledge and accept the pain caused to a mother who loses a child to adoption would cause those who gain from her loss to feel less noble about having "rescued" her child and having allegedly done the mother favor? Does it fly in the face of the myths that mothers who relinquish make a "plan" and then should have no regrets? Or that they were all crack whores and didn't want their kids to begin with so why complain now?

Who is really being judgmental and cruel here?


PermalinkPermalink 06/06/07 @ 01:05
Comment from: karenwb [Member] Email
Mirah Riben's article is right on. Perhaps some people should stop reinforcing adoption propaganda and educate themselves on the facts. The United Nations is completely aware of the human rights abuses regarding adoption surrender. See below:

Distr. General 6 January 2003
COMMISSION ON HUMAN RIGHTS
Fifty-ninth session, Item 13 of the provisional agenda

RIGHTS OF THE CHILD

IV. OTHER ISSUES IN FOCUS, A. Adoption

"During the course of 2002, the Special Rapporteur received many complaints relating to allegedly fraudulent adoption practices. Where such practices have the effect that the child becomes the object of a commercial transaction, the Special Rapporteur... such cases fall within the "sale" element of his mandate. The Special Rapporteur was shocked to learn of the plethora of human rights abuses which appear to permeate the adoption systems of many countries...in many cases, the emphasis has changed from the desire to provide a needy child with a home, to that of providing a needy parent with a child. As a result, a whole industry has grown, generating millions of dollars of revenues each year, seeking babies for adoption... The problems surrounding many intercountry adoptions in which children are taken from poor families in undeveloped countries and given to parents in developed countries, have become quite well known, but the Special Rapporteur was alarmed to hear of certain practices within developed countries, including the use of fraud and coercion to persuade single mothers to give up their children." (Emphasis added)

Do your homework and you might learn something meaningful.

KarenWB
PermalinkPermalink 06/06/07 @ 13:12
Comment from: Sandra Hanks Benoiton [Member] Email · http://international.adoptionblogs.com/
Thank you for reading and for taking the time to post your comment.

May I suggest that the UN Special Rapporteur is not necessarily the be-all and end-all of authority or virtue when it comes to adoption? That was Emma Nicholson's job for a while, and she's single-handedly responsible for the suffering of thousands of Romanian children. Nothing to be proud of there. Anti-adoption all the way around, she's doing what she can to keep kids trapped in the circumstances of their birth, no matter how horrible. I strongly disagree with this POV and argue my view whenever presented with an agenda I see as dangerous to the world's children.

Best,
Sandra
PermalinkPermalink 06/07/07 @ 04:11
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