Moose, over on the Guatemala Adoption blog, has been posting about raising funds for adoption and giving some good options and ideas.
Quoting from his blog where he details efforts of a group called ChildAdoptionFunds.org:
According to their site, this is what they will help you with:
We hope to empower you with enough confidence, so that you may have greater success with your fundraising goals. We have made available to you a fundraising assistance program, or a “coach” to assist you. The coach will be made available to:
1. Create a fundraising goal
2. Create a goal schedule
3. Identify your focus donor marketadvertisement
5. Provide ideas for fundraisers
6. Assist you in creating appeal letters
7. Answer questions
Thanks for this, Moose, and for your other tips on funding adoptions. Very helpful for many, I’m sure.
Five minutes after being impressed with the way information can be shared, I came across an advice column that points out just how clueless some folks can be about this very topic, and how important it is that those of us involved in adoption work to keep the real scoop out there.
Here’s the question:
My brother-in-law and his wife are adopting a child from another country.
The couple has created a Web site about the impending arrival of their child. They are planning a baby shower.
The couple also has requested financial donations from friends and family, including setting up a PayPal account to expedite donations.
We are aware of the costs associated with an international adoption, but such donations to finance it seem something of an affront to us.
My husband and I are very proud of their decision, as they are unable to conceive. Nothing is more life affirming than providing a stable home for a child, regardless of the country of origin.
I suppose it is the request for money that has us concerned.
As the parents of two children, we understand how much it costs to feed, clothe and educate a child. How can we relate this to them without squelching their excitement about the adoption?
And now … the clueless answer:
Your husband should have a discreet conversation with his brother that can start something along the lines: “I’m worried that you and Sandy can’t afford this adoption. Is everything OK?”
As you point out, one problem with this is that the expenses of child rearing only begin once the child is brought home. If a couple can’t finance the mechanics of having a child (whether through fertility treatments or overseas adoptions), perhaps they should wait until they are more financially secure. Domestic adoptions can be far less expensive. If this couple hasn’t considered an American-born child, they should.
Raising money in this fashion is above and beyond gathering gifts (financial and otherwise) through a baby shower. Either this couple is very hard up for money or they feel entitled to use their child’s adoption as a way to raise funds.
Either answer isn’t good.
Is this another ‘Gee, why don’t we just all live in a perfect world?” – sort of attitude? Can’t manage the “mechanics”, so forget about it? Or just go the cheap and easy ‘domestic’ route, why dontcha, if a spare thirty grand (or so) isn’t handy at the moment.
I really don’t have a problem with the askers, as they’ve made an attempt at getting information.
The answerer, however …
I’m stopping right now, before I say something that’s not nice.